Monday, April 4, 2011

I May Not Know What I Want to Hear....

but I usually know what I DON'T want to hear.

"This just might not happen for you. Your life will just as fulfilling and satisfying without a baby as it would be with."

Really? Seriously?

Well thank you for that little bit of wisdom. How silly how I've been the past four years putting my body and my mind through all of this shit. How stupid I've been for crying as much as I have, for pursuing the only thing I've ever wanted. Good to know that I can stop now, and I'll be just as happy.

WTF? I should have screamed at my dear, longtime -- yet stupid -- friend. It's easy for him to say something like that when he has three kids. Should have banged the phone on the table. I just told him I disagreed with him.

Do I think the world will end if I don't get a baby? No. I'll figure it out, I'll figure out life, if that were to happen.

For today, I'll just add that to the list of stupid things people say, right up there with telling me as soon as I stop trying to get pregnant, I will. And the dozens of stupid thins I've heard over the past four years.


  1. I had a friend tell me (after I told her I couldn't have children) "Well at least you have your dogs."

  2. Yup...that one goes on the list, too.

  3. People can be such jerks! I really hate the comments that people make. It is as if many don't even think about what they are saying. It is frustrating!

  4. Seriously, people suck! Even people we love (most of the time). I try to remind myself that they say these things because they don't know what else to say as they see us with struggle after struggle, but sometimes, frankly, I don't have the energy to remind myself of that. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. That was insensitive at the least.