A friend in Rochester is due with her third boy this month.
A friend from work had a baby girl on my birthday last month.
Another friend from work goes on maternity leave tomorrow.
And three friends (one from high school, two from Baltimore) both announced on FB today the sex of their babies due this fall -- a girl for one, boys for the others.
And that is my life. And I almost started to feel sorry for myself, and then got an email from a friend who is also adopting from Africa, and just awaiting her travel dates. She was writing to see where things are with me.
I told her my dossier was mailed into the placement agency (yeah!) and I am three weeks into my "up to 90 days" wait for USCIS approval. Once I get that, it's an estimated 12 to 18 months until referral.
Her response was perfect, and just what I needed: "You are almost done with your job....and that's a good feeling."
And she's right. I am almost done with my job. Then it's waiting, and preparing, and taking care of me, so that when the baby arrives, I can do nothing but take care of him (or her).
And so, this weekend I will continue to work on the marketing plan for the fund-raising raffle, work on this website and the graphic element, and work on the adoption grant applications.
It will also be about sleeping in, lounging around, going to the gym, going grocery shopping, and just taking it easy. Taking care of me.
Because Jo is right, I am almost done with my job, and it is a good feeling.
Way to go Laurie! That's exactly the attitude you need! Isn't the waitlist such a relief? Like you've done everything you could do as fast as you could and now you are just waiting for you child to be ready for YOU. I like to think my baby is cherishing those much-needed bonding moments with her enat while I'm missing her.
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